Leadership is Confident Communicating with Heart

If you feel like a leader you are right.

Leaders in our society can be students, family members, messengers in spiritual centers,  artists and entertainers,  scientists, explorers, humanitarian  and animal rights advocates, inventors, athletes, writers, and sometimes political leaders.

Genuine leaders create a positive legacy through putting the welfare of others ahead of their own interests and consistently matching actions to goals.

I like to describe their leadership as “Confident Communication with Heart.”

We have all witnessed men and women who have charmed, bullied and even bought their way into positions of power. Their leadership was based on greed and ego.

Real Leaders (past and present) foster development by bringing out the best in others as they speak to connect.

Real Leaders face personal and public challenges with courage. In word and deed they communicate compassion with heart and without bias.

Real Leaders serve the welfare of others while tirelessly sharing time and attention .

Mahatma Gandhi, Jesus Christ, Eleanor Roosevelt, Martin Luther King, and Jean Vanier   are only a few leaders who have lived with heart and encouraged many followers to become leaders.

I remember reading how shy Eleanor Roosevelt once was. Her vision to see the better good for many enabled her to overcome her timidity so she could share her vision of helping the downtrodden.

Confident communicating arises from being able to determine what is most important, and to share that focus clearly. Confidence is available to everyone who wants something better. The more you learn to communicate with heart the greater your confidence will grow.

To think about:

What leaders inspire you? How have they affected your work? Your personality? Your social life? Your choices?

In what way do you see yourself as a leader?

How can we help our young people to develop leadership skills?

If you feel compelled please respond.

Positively, Pauline
Author of Speak &Lead
Amazingly You…. Confident Communicating with Heart


Speaking for Success: Connecting with Clarity

Potholes in the road can cause havoc! So can poor communication.

Jagged holes in formerly smooth pavements force us to veer off our chosen path.

If the pothole suddenly appears and we roll over or worse still fall in it can cause serious damage and expensive repairs.

Pot holes in communication put everyone’s nerves on edge, waste time and energy!

People who don’t know where they stand or what is expected of them become cranky, unproductive and worse.

Circumstances and our habits can turn us into communication pot hole creators.

Or we may be the victims of pot hole communicators.

Awareness of the dangers and consequences can enable us to find appropriate tools to fix what needs to be fixed before we cause serious damage to relationships and to business.

Three communication pothole creators I have noticed in business meetings

  1. Pokey Ramblers
  2. Serious Speedsters
  3. Over the Edgers
  1. Ramblers take 25 sentences to make one vague point. Their disconnected thoughts cause huge gaps in understanding for the listeners. Potential clients who fear that their time is being wasted will search for alternate providers.

Connect with a Click Clarity Solutions:

  • Write your concluding sentence ( the reason you are speaking) first.
  • Create point forms that support that conclusion.
  • Edit or have a professional editor assist you to use concise language.
  • Observe role models who speak concisely.
  • Hire a professional coach to assist you for special events that require time management and clear delivery.
  1. Speedsters cram as many words as possible into as short a time as they can.

In this whirlwind of ideas bewildered listeners gasp for thinking time.

Connect with a Click Clarity Solutions:

  • Practise speaking more slowly in everyday conversations.
  • Respond to puzzled looks by pausing to apologize for speaking too quickly.
  • Interject questions related to audience needs with pauses.
  • Practise speaking with a friend who speaks more slowly than you.
  • Choose concise language that has impact.
  1. Over the edgers turn every business item into an emotional drama. Their clients walk away fatigued and eager for a rational, positive solution and a different business.

Connect with a Click Clarity Solutions :

  • Restore inner calm by choosing to relax in calming places and activities for you.
  • Replenish your core of professional well being with daily affirmations.
  • Invest time relating with professional colleagues who are calm.
  • Recognize multiple benefits that result from releasing drama.

 

 


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“Awesome was the word mostly heard about Pauline Duncan-Thrasher’s presentation on The 12 Powers at a Wellness Day held for the retired teachers in Oxford County on May 4, 2016… captivated the audience immediately as she shared with them how spirituality and wellness are intrinsically woven. Her calming voice, personal life stories and beautifully composed slides brought meaningful and lasting messages to her audience. … Is it any wonder that the participants rated Pauline’s keynote address a unanimous 5 out of 5?  Oxford County -RTO District 37


What People Say about Pauline’s Training

“Pauline received excellent reviews when I hired her to present a one-day training course on Presentation Skills for my clients. The client participants reported that they had much greater confidence when presenting in front of employees and clients. Pauline has an excellent presentation style and is exceptionally good at providing detailed critiques in a tactful, accurate and easily accepted manner.”

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“If you want to understand how to improve as a communicator then Pauline Duncan-Thrasher is the person to help you hone your skills and give you the feedback of champions. Pauline is passionate about the art of speaking and will help you to become a professional in no time – whether at work or on the platform. ” Roy Saunderson  CLO at Rideau


Speaking for Success with Family and Friends

Dedicated to my late Aunt Phyl with love

Despite her advanced stages of lung to brain cancer my beloved Aunt Phyl was right there in the front seat of her cousin’s van to meet me at the Orlando airport.

Her face was bruised from the fall in the shower but her eyes glowed with love as she reached out to give me hugs and to whisper “I’m so happy you came!”  For a lovely week we talked, laughed and just enjoyed each other’s company. I think we both knew without saying it out loud that this would be

The last time we shared together.

My aunt Phyl , as described in my book Swimmin’ Women , published in 2008, “developed a zesty sense of humour and generous spirit that kept bouncing back throughout her life”. During my last week with her in 2016 she was still feisty, funny and independent as we shared time together.

She wondered out loud “Why am I still here?” I would answer “Because you inspire all of us.”  Aunt Phyl passed away ten days after I returned home.

Connecting with family and friends whether they are healthy or ill can leave us feeling both challenged and vulnerable as they have seen us in many situations that those who know us only briefly sometimes miss.

Three suggestions that might help:

  1. Speak your love out loud simply, genuinely and frequently.
  1. Honour both their rights and yours to be independent in what they do, what they share and when they choose to be silent. Quietly and calmly assert your own rights to be treated with respect .
  1. Show compassion for their victories, their challenges and their hopes and dreams by listening without interrupting and asking questions when appropriate. Share your own triumphs and challenges, your own goals so they too can be the givers of compassion.

Positively, Pauline