From Victim to Victor: Part I: Beginnings of Assertiveness

Mouse

“I am not a mouse” she said
But silently inside her head.

Her father, quiet, introverted scholar
Bullied into leaving army life he loved.

Never learned to interact
With his one and only child
a mother’s girl, quiet, polite,
placid so he thought.

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How to Beat Frazzle: Part III: Energy from Eating, Exercise and Entertainment

cf_healthy-foods_mainWell-balanced, tasty meals.  About three months ago, we deleted wheat products. After a few weeks it’s made going past desserts at buffets a little easier. There are always gluten-free bakeries if we feel a strong craving!

Organic vegetables and fruit are appearing in more local grocery stores and markets, along with great varieties of locally-grown produce and exotic foods.

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How to Beat Frazzle: Part II: ZZZZZZs for Zest!

Sleeping ~ How much is enough? How much is too much?  

restfulsleepHealth experts suggest a minimum of seven hours. I’ve read that any hour before midnight is extra powerful.

From personal experience the times I go to bed before 10:30 make waking up and getting up at 6:30 very easy. Rested, bright and alert, ready to greet a new day.

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How To Beat Frazzle: Part I

To you, dear blog readers, I share what I wrote in my introduction to Out of Frantic, Into Focus Workbook.

Dedicated to  readers who may feel:

franticFrantic with worry

Rushed with living

Anxious about what is happening

Nervous about what might happen

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Secrets from a Senior: How to Turn ‘Awful Aging’ into ‘Awesome Living’

“Awesome aging is living fully this minute with the delight of a child and the wisdom of an adult who knows that life offers no guarantees.” ~ Pauline Duncan-Thrasher

Excerpt from Swimmin’ Women: Ride the Waves of Change and Dive Into Life:

Happy+seniors1Awesome aging’ is a positive, spirited response to life that illuminates everyone you meet.

Awesomely aging folks choose to respond to life’s ups and downs with flexibility and resilience.  If the heights become too scary, they know when to pause and restore equilibrium.

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Confidence Building By Creating Your Own Kudos: Part IV

“A bird does not sing because it has an answer. It sings because it has a song.”
~ Chinese proverb

confidence4Your song begins as an independent spirit. You may still remember your rebellious nature as a teenager. Maybe you argued just for the sake of arguing. Maybe you kept your responses churning inside. Maybe you couldn’t wait til you were old enough to make up your own mind. As an adult, you discover that there is a price for independent thinking but also a joy.

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Confidence Building By Creating Your Own Kudos: Part III

DO focus on creating a life that is wonderfully fulfilling every day.

confidence3Starting fresh each day gives us permission to forgive ourselves for past mistakes, to forgive others and to concentrate on enjoying the moments before us.

How often do we find ourselves complaining about what is going wrong: the weather, our looks, our relationships, our work?

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Confidence Building By Creating Your Own Kudos: Part II

UNDERSTAND that although everyone seems to have free advice, the bottom line is that you are the one who needs to wade through all of the ideas until you arrive at what suits you.

confidence2_choiceYour choices may mirror what your parents want for you or they may be vastly different. You may need to put your foot down to let family and friends know your right to decide is your right.

Each of us has the right to choose what we believe to be important. You may be the first in your family to graduate from university or you may be the first to choose to not enter university, instead embarking on a year or so of travel, volunteer work or combined work experiences with part-time study.

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Confidence Building By Creating Your Own Kudos: Part I

We need to create our own kudos for the times when others are too busy or too distracted to build us up.

confidence1_kudos“Kudos” can be a mantra that lets you know if you’re on track to discovering the real you. Kudos can also let you know if you are being true to your real you as opposed to the person others may have misjudged or underestimated you as.

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Gains from Speaking

How will speaking help raise your self esteem?

Self EsteemCourage will grow as you speak. It is inevitable that when you face your greatest fears, you will begin to be bolder and more successful.  As admiration develops around your speaking and you delight in the applause of your peers and even strangers, you will speak more confidently and competently.  Your self esteem will gradually develop and expand like the tulip buds in spring ~ slowly at first then with grace and beauty.  It is as logical and real as nature unfolding.  Continue reading