Speaking for Success: Connecting with Clarity

Potholes in the road can cause havoc! So can poor communication.

Jagged holes in formerly smooth pavements force us to veer off our chosen path.

If the pothole suddenly appears and we roll over or worse still fall in it can cause serious damage and expensive repairs.

Pot holes in communication put everyone’s nerves on edge, waste time and energy!

People who don’t know where they stand or what is expected of them become cranky, unproductive and worse.

Circumstances and our habits can turn us into communication pot hole creators.

Or we may be the victims of pot hole communicators.

Awareness of the dangers and consequences can enable us to find appropriate tools to fix what needs to be fixed before we cause serious damage to relationships and to business.

Three communication pothole creators I have noticed in business meetings

  1. Pokey Ramblers
  2. Serious Speedsters
  3. Over the Edgers
  1. Ramblers take 25 sentences to make one vague point. Their disconnected thoughts cause huge gaps in understanding for the listeners. Potential clients who fear that their time is being wasted will search for alternate providers.

Connect with a Click Clarity Solutions:

  • Write your concluding sentence ( the reason you are speaking) first.
  • Create point forms that support that conclusion.
  • Edit or have a professional editor assist you to use concise language.
  • Observe role models who speak concisely.
  • Hire a professional coach to assist you for special events that require time management and clear delivery.
  1. Speedsters cram as many words as possible into as short a time as they can.

In this whirlwind of ideas bewildered listeners gasp for thinking time.

Connect with a Click Clarity Solutions:

  • Practise speaking more slowly in everyday conversations.
  • Respond to puzzled looks by pausing to apologize for speaking too quickly.
  • Interject questions related to audience needs with pauses.
  • Practise speaking with a friend who speaks more slowly than you.
  • Choose concise language that has impact.
  1. Over the edgers turn every business item into an emotional drama. Their clients walk away fatigued and eager for a rational, positive solution and a different business.

Connect with a Click Clarity Solutions :

  • Restore inner calm by choosing to relax in calming places and activities for you.
  • Replenish your core of professional well being with daily affirmations.
  • Invest time relating with professional colleagues who are calm.
  • Recognize multiple benefits that result from releasing drama.



Increase Our Health by Speaking…Up

Inform yourself of the latest health equipment and innovations because your doctor may not be accessible or even as informed as you are.

HealthMy own lymphedema was not diagnosed until I took the initiative of planning a trip to the Mayo Clinic in Rochester.

Informed patients are healthier and more active in their own treatment and proactive health. Requesting the latest tests is your right as a patient and will likely reap more benefits if you are informed and concise in your speaking style. You are your own best advocate.
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Relieve Stress by Speaking

Release the fear valves and obstructions of years of relative silence to open up new avenues for you as a speaker.

Stress ReliefLook at life differently with fresh eyes. Speaking will result in offers of assistance from those you admire. Opportunities to be part of dynamic teams at work and volunteer groups in your communities will appear as word of your speaking prowess spreads. Leadership chances will be offered to you. Career opportunities will ease the stress of feeling locked into a one-way career.

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Rewards for Speaking

Attention for speaking will always happen because so many people are terrified to speak.

In Front of A CrowdThe more you speak the better you become. Tangible gifts such as presents, money, awards, will eventually begin to flow your way.  Recognition of your talents will naturally begin to occur because people will know of your presence in ways formerly hidden.

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Gains from Speaking

How will speaking help raise your self esteem?

Self EsteemCourage will grow as you speak. It is inevitable that when you face your greatest fears, you will begin to be bolder and more successful.  As admiration develops around your speaking and you delight in the applause of your peers and even strangers, you will speak more confidently and competently.  Your self esteem will gradually develop and expand like the tulip buds in spring ~ slowly at first then with grace and beauty.  It is as logical and real as nature unfolding.  Continue reading

How to Transform Fears of Public Speaking into Strengths

With preparation and practice you can replace your panic with poise!

Fear of Public SpeakingRecently I met yet another adult who confessed to a lifelong fear and dislike of public speaking. Like many of you his fear began with an unhappy childhood experience of being forced to prepare and deliver a speech in front of classmates.

He went through school and university avoiding any classes that required participation.  Some students thrive in speaking in front of their classmates. I feel blessed to have been in that group, although one-on-one I was introspective and shy.

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Four Lessons I’ve Learned from Competing in Speech Contests

In a world that is often cold with cynicism and dark with indifference, speakers need to ignite sparks that will restore hope and energize initiative.

  1. How to create a speech for a contest
  2. How to compress a speech into a limited time frame
  3. How to channel excited energy while speaking
  4. How to want so passionately to be declared the “best” while still being able to deal with not even placing in the top three

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How to Plan a Good Meeting: Part II

Excerpt from Speak and Lead Series by Pauline Duncan-Thrasher

Last minute rushes leave people frazzled and out of sorts. Successful meetings are well-planned meetings. Informing people in advance sends the message that you value their time as well as yours.

  • Prioritize three best meeting dates.
  • Appoint a treasurer if money is involved.
  • Create a budget.
  • Discuss suitable locations.
  • Choose a facility (location/ room set up) committee leader.
  • Plan whether and when you will provide refreshments.
  • Confirm as soon as possible place, date and time.

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How to Plan a Good Meeting: Part I

Excerpt from Speak and Lead Series by Pauline Duncan-Thrasher

 What are key differences between a poor meeting and a good meeting?

A poor meeting lacks purpose, is clearly disorganized, wastes time and manages to aggravate the obnoxious while infuriating the calm: An ineffective chairperson mumbles or shouts, plays favourites, is easily sidetracked, unable to deal with controversy, and lacks knowledge of parliamentary procedure. Sadly we’ve all had to sit through too many poorly run, time wasting meetings.

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Speak and Lead: Good Meetings

How can an ineffective leader become an effective chairperson? Why do some leaders make leading a meeting look so easy? What does someone need to know to lead a good meeting?

Unlike the  ineffective chairperson  who mumbles or shouts, plays favourites, is easily sidetracked and shows a general inability to deal with controversy, the effective chairperson practises the following:

  • Speaks clearly and calmly.
  • Remains objective, focused and courteous despite controversy.
  • Insists on mutual respect among participants.
  • Knows and practises parliamentary procedure.
  • Accommodates spirited debate.
  • Creates fair voting procedures.

Read more from my Speak and Lead series HERE