From Comfort to Courage

Most of us, just like sweet Chipper in the picture, love our places of cozy comfort. Although your safe spot may not be on a rug under your best friend’s desk, it could be your bedroom, your home office, maybe even in drastic times, your closet! It can be a wrench to tear ourselves away from that safe spot. Chipper can only run, stretch in the sun and meet new, happy people if he gets out of his blanket.

I’m sure that You  know in Your heart that the only way you can offer your gift to the world is to get out into the world. It is only when you allow yourself to recognize your own value that you will gain courage to leave your cozy, safe place.

Then and only then can you be the captivating speaker you need to be to best  present your gifts. Neighbors, family members, co-workers, staff in stores you frequent. members of your groups are all affected by your openness to connecting in a friendly, positive way.

Confining your self to only what is familiar is like hiding away your gifts. No one can enjoy them. “What gifts?” you ask.

Take out a pen or pencil and write down three names of acquaintances that first come to mind.
Picture how you interact with them. Ask yourself what they might see as your “gifts.”

Public speaking terrifies many people Even professional speakers feel nervous before presentations.

Good speakers focus on using their unique gifts to share knowledge with audiences. As a service or product provider, you too can learn to captivate  your audience using your unique gifts.

As long as one person needs to know what you know, you owe it to yourself and to that person to share that knowledge.
Speaking from experience, the more you share the better it feels. And it feels great!

Staying in safe mode robs two sets of people: the potential giver- you, and the receiver(S), all of your clients.
The full impact and power of you positively interacting with others is best accomplished when you move away from safe and into exciting, adventurous public speaking. And that is where I can help. Contact me today if you are ready to leave your cozy, safe haven for wondrous success as a speaker.

Enrich Your life by Expanding Your Comfort Zones

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Although this is focused on speaking to present and potential clients, I invite you to review a time in your life when you tried something new: maybe driving a car for the first time, down hill skiing, your first serious relationship, or perhaps your first job. Remember your jitters, but also remember the elation you felt when you completed what you wanted even if it wasn’t perfect. It doesn’t have to be!

You began a journey to success with a small beginning that just kept growing.

Why would you choose to go into discomfort?

Peter McWilliams spoke from experience when he reminded readers that

“To the degree we’re not living our dreams, our comfort zone has more control of us than we have over ourselves.” He went on to state that

 “Comfort zones are most often expanded through discomfort.”

If you have read this far my guess is that you already realize that what you are doing right now is not enough to achieve your dreams.

To gain more recognition, clients, financial returns you need to choose a venue that in the process of rewarding you will also challenge your comfort levels.  Only you can determine the degree of discomfort you are willing to accept to gain what you want .

You know that as you move beyond the familiar you will enter the wonderfully new and exciting world of Possibilities.

Those who know you well believe you are stronger, wiser and more talented than you give yourself credit for. It is only your own self doubts that hold you back. You are smart enough and strong enough to explore a new area of growth and to reinforce the beliefs of not only those who care about you but your own image of yourself.

How do you expand your comfort zones?

Recently I approached a group outside my city to inquire about speaking. Despite my experience in my own city I felt some nervousness about speaking to a new audience in a new setting . The nervousness kept coming and going. “Better practise what I advise others to do”, I said to myself.


  • Picture the new group responding positively to your message.
  • Brighten your topic to include humor, props, visual material.
  • Increase your speaking fee to reflect the greater value you plan to bring to the group and/or your recognition of the value you bring always. If this is a “no fee” occasion remind yourself of the value you bring with a bright flyer/poster and a promise to return with another “for fee” project.
  • Wear something comfortable but special to mark this occasion.
  • Invite a trusted friend to take photos and add moral support.

It helped me.

What’s in “discomfort for you?

  • Advanced marketing to a wider audience
  • Excitement of meeting the challenge
  • Movement out of the rut of comfort and into the thrill of stretching your self.
  • The thrill of spreading your wings to fly higher and farther than you ever have before .
  • “ We can lift ourselves out of ignorance, we can find ourselves as creatures of excellence and intelligence and skill. We can learn to be free! we can learn to fly!”
    Richard Bach, Jonathan Livingston Seagull

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From Victim to Victor: Part I: Beginnings of Assertiveness


“I am not a mouse” she said
But silently inside her head.

Her father, quiet, introverted scholar
Bullied into leaving army life he loved.

Never learned to interact
With his one and only child
a mother’s girl, quiet, polite,
placid so he thought.

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Secrets from a Senior: How to Turn ‘Awful Aging’ into ‘Awesome Living’

“Awesome aging is living fully this minute with the delight of a child and the wisdom of an adult who knows that life offers no guarantees.” ~ Pauline Duncan-Thrasher

Excerpt from Swimmin’ Women: Ride the Waves of Change and Dive Into Life:

Happy+seniors1Awesome aging’ is a positive, spirited response to life that illuminates everyone you meet.

Awesomely aging folks choose to respond to life’s ups and downs with flexibility and resilience.  If the heights become too scary, they know when to pause and restore equilibrium.

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Confidence Building By Creating Your Own Kudos: Part IV

“A bird does not sing because it has an answer. It sings because it has a song.”
~ Chinese proverb

confidence4Your song begins as an independent spirit. You may still remember your rebellious nature as a teenager. Maybe you argued just for the sake of arguing. Maybe you kept your responses churning inside. Maybe you couldn’t wait til you were old enough to make up your own mind. As an adult, you discover that there is a price for independent thinking but also a joy.

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Confidence Building By Creating Your Own Kudos: Part III

DO focus on creating a life that is wonderfully fulfilling every day.

confidence3Starting fresh each day gives us permission to forgive ourselves for past mistakes, to forgive others and to concentrate on enjoying the moments before us.

How often do we find ourselves complaining about what is going wrong: the weather, our looks, our relationships, our work?

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Confidence Building By Creating Your Own Kudos: Part II

UNDERSTAND that although everyone seems to have free advice, the bottom line is that you are the one who needs to wade through all of the ideas until you arrive at what suits you.

confidence2_choiceYour choices may mirror what your parents want for you or they may be vastly different. You may need to put your foot down to let family and friends know your right to decide is your right.

Each of us has the right to choose what we believe to be important. You may be the first in your family to graduate from university or you may be the first to choose to not enter university, instead embarking on a year or so of travel, volunteer work or combined work experiences with part-time study.

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Confidence Building By Creating Your Own Kudos: Part I

We need to create our own kudos for the times when others are too busy or too distracted to build us up.

confidence1_kudos“Kudos” can be a mantra that lets you know if you’re on track to discovering the real you. Kudos can also let you know if you are being true to your real you as opposed to the person others may have misjudged or underestimated you as.

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Relieve Stress by Speaking

Release the fear valves and obstructions of years of relative silence to open up new avenues for you as a speaker.

Stress ReliefLook at life differently with fresh eyes. Speaking will result in offers of assistance from those you admire. Opportunities to be part of dynamic teams at work and volunteer groups in your communities will appear as word of your speaking prowess spreads. Leadership chances will be offered to you. Career opportunities will ease the stress of feeling locked into a one-way career.

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Rewards for Speaking

Attention for speaking will always happen because so many people are terrified to speak.

In Front of A CrowdThe more you speak the better you become. Tangible gifts such as presents, money, awards, will eventually begin to flow your way.  Recognition of your talents will naturally begin to occur because people will know of your presence in ways formerly hidden.

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